Did your brain sort of go offline when you had a baby?
When I was pregnant with my eldest I was a lawyer. One of my colleagues informed me that a really bad case of “pregnant woman brain fog,” which she clearly thought I had, meant you were carrying a boy. In her analysis, having a boy made you stupid: “they steal your brain, since males are dumber than females generally, so they need to sap the mother.”
(Meanwhile my secretary was telling me that if “you” — she used a generic “you” but she clearly meant “me” — looked ugly during pregnancy, you were definitely having a girl because, “girls steal your beauty.” I was obviously having a hermaphrodite!)
My childbirth students and the new moms I work with often complain about “brain fog.” It doesn’t happen to everyone and it doesn’t happen the same way for everyone, but it’s common enough that I giggled, reading this piece by Elizabeth Beller, about brain fog, which, for her, continues through breastfeeding, so that for months her mind works like this:
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Breastpump. Full Boobs.
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Air. Sleep. Sleep. Please, for the love of GOD, sleep.
Christ these poor people with small children caught in earthquakes, floods, tornados!! The world is terrifying!!! How can I protect my children?!?
“If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.”—Dr Dorothy Law Nolte (via inherhipstheresrevolutions)
Be thankful that you woke up alive each morning. Develop a childlike sense of wonder towards life. Focus on the beauty of every living thing. Make the most of each day. Don’t take anything for granted. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
my boyfriend once told me of an “old vegan trick” that changed my lonelygirl #HUNGRYmom nights forever. I call it:
Serves 2 (or 1, if you’re me)
What You Need: 2 or 3 bananas
What You Do:
1. Freeze bananas. 2. In a food processor, throw in frozen bananas and process for about 5 minutes, stopping periodically to scrape sides down. Once your bananas have a fluffy, frozen yogurt-like consistency 3. No third step. Literally, thats it. Frozen bananas end up having the same texture and taste as froyo if you simply blend them. Vegans just don’t want you to know about it. Optional: While your bananas are transforming, throw in some almonds, blueberries, chopped walnuts, carob chibs- Or all of them, if you’re me. Enjoy your nanner froyo and think of me the entire time.
When it’s time to clean, have your trusty green cleaners at the ready — baking soda, vinegar, castile soap — plus another ultra-cheap gem: hydrogen peroxide. You can use it anywhere, and can’t beat the price: A 16-oz. bottle only costs a buck.
Here are 10 ways you can use that ubiquitous brown bottle of 3% hydrogen peroxide to your home’s advantage:
In your kitchen
1. Clean your cutting board and countertop. Hydrogen peroxide bubbles away any nasties left after preparing meat or fish for dinner. Add hydrogen peroxide to an opaque spray bottle — exposure to light kills its effectiveness — and spray on your surfaces. Let everything bubble for a few minutes, then scrub and rinse clean.
2. Wipe out your refrigerator and dishwasher. Because it’s non-toxic, hydrogen peroxide is great for cleaning places that store food and dishes. Just spray the appliance outside and in, let the solution sit for a few minutes, then wipe clean.
3. Clean your sponges. Soak them for 10 minutes in a 50/50 mixture of hydrogen peroxide and warm water in a shallow dish. Rinse the sponges thoroughly afterward.
4. Remove baked-on crud from pots and pans. Combine hydrogen peroxide with enough baking soda to make a paste, then rub onto the dirty pan and let it sit for a while. Come back later with a scrubby sponge and some warm water, and the baked-on stains will lift right off.
In your bathroom
5. Whiten bathtub grout. If excess moisture has left your tub grout dingy, first dry the tub thoroughly, then spray it liberally with hydrogen peroxide. Let it sit — it may bubble slightly — for a little while, then come back and scrub the grout with an old toothbrush. You may have to repeat the process a few times, depending on how much mildew you have, but eventually your grout will be white again.
6. Clean the toilet bowl. Pour half a cup of hydrogen peroxide into the toilet bowl, let stand for 20 minutes, then scrub clean.
In your laundry room
7. Remove stains from clothing, curtains, and tablecloths. Hydrogen peroxide can be used as a pre-treater for stains — just soak the stain for a little while in 3% hydrogen peroxide before tossing into the laundry. You can also add a cup of peroxide to a regular load of whites to boost brightness. It’s a green alternative to bleach, and works just as well.
Anywhere in your house
8. Brighten dingy floors. Combine half a cup of hydrogen peroxide with one gallon of hot water, then go to town on your flooring. Because it’s so mild, it’s safe for any floor type, and there’s no need to rinse.
9. Clean kids’ toys and play areas. Hydrogen peroxide is a safe cleaner to use around kids, or anyone with respiratory problems, because it’s not a lung irritant. Fill an opaque spray bottle with hydrogen peroxide and spray toys, toy boxes, doorknobs, and anything else your kids touch on a regular basis. You could also soak a rag in peroxide to make a wipe.
10. Help out your plants. To ward off fungus, add a little hydrogen peroxide to your spray bottle the next time you’re spritzing plants. Use this helpful chart to determine the ratio of hydrogen peroxide to water for your types of plants.
If I was stranded on a dessert island, and I could bring one thing, it would honestly be baking soda. This shit is the 8th world wonder, for real. Below is a list of collected IDreamOfClean.com posts that involve baking soda-and this is just the tip of the iceburg!
-An old, clean sock works great as a furniture duster. Just slip one on your hand and spray some wood cleaner on it-
 The Few Drops That Pack a HUGE Punch
-Add a few drops of an essential oil to your cleaning bucket. I usually clean with baking soda and vinegar—two products that don’t smell great. But when I mix in a little lavender or eucalyptus, we all breathe easier:-
 The Secret Ingredient For Fruitless Frocks
-My mother showed me a foolproof way to remove fruit-juice stains from shirts. As soon as you notice that the juice has dribbled onto the fabric, rub clear liquid glycerin into the stain and let it sit for an hour. Then rub in white vinegar and launder the shirt as usual. When the garment comes out of the washer, the stain is almost always gone-
 The Too Easily Forgotten Order of Things
Vacuum first, then dust. The reason: The vacuum stirs up dust, so even if you just dusted, you’ll have to do it again. This time-saving tip comes in handy when I’m frantically getting my home ready for company.
 Watr Stain Removers For?
To remove red wine from a white tablecloth, pour boiling water onto the stain. It takes the color out instantly, saving you from bleaching (and damaging) expensive fabric.
 Throw up? Throw Down the Baking Soda
-When one of my kids throws or spits up in bed, a simple step-by-step process can make the mattress good as new. Start by pressing on the area with a dry towel. To remove odors, wet a towel with baking soda and water, dab it on the mattress, then pat dry with another towel. Sprinkle cornstarch over any areas that are still damp, and several hours later vacuum it up. No one will be able to tell that you had a mattress mishap-
[7} Dishing Out Your Best
-Dish soap will get grease off your clothes just like it does with your dishes. Its true! Once you rub some dish soap onto a grease stain, it will vanish-
 The Greatest Game
-It’s amazing how much cleaning you can do in five minutes. Practice the Five-Minute Game; a challenge to clean as much as possible in that short time frame. When I play the game by myself nowadays, I actually manage to do the dishes and run the vacuum in the kitchen and the living room. The timer keeps me motivated and makes it more fun to do chores-
 The Inside Job
Make the bed while you’re still in it. Sit up with the covers on your lap, then pull up the sheets and straighten them out in front of you. I try to make the beds this way, too. It saves time because you don’t have to walk around the bed to straighten each side.
 Dirty Wall? Clean It Up!
Sometimes babens accidentally (or not so accidentally) draw on walls. To remove their masterpieces (if you rent or even care to), I follow this advice from my mom: Wet a rag, smear toothpaste on it, and use it to scrub the wall clean.
 The Bitter-Sweet Oder Killer
When my house develops a musty scent, I fill bowls with white vinegar and place them in all the affected rooms. My mom taught me that doing this gets rid of foul smells, and she was right. You can use the same method to deodorize the refrigerator.
 Baking Soda Brilliance
What to do if you burn a pan but cant afford to throw it away? Make a paste out of baking soda and water and let it sit on the sticky spot. An hour later, I was able to wipe the mess away with ease.
 Tie the Knot (literally)
Tie a knot in stained garments before you put them in the hamper. That way, when you sort the laundry, you instantly know when something needs extra attention.
this is all I have the time and patience to write for now…plus I am sufficiently disgusted with myself after coming up with those terrible titles above, so goodbye and goodnite!
As soon as you look at the world through an ideology you are finished. No reality fits an ideology. Life is beyond that. That is why people are always searching for a meaning to life. But life has no meaning; it cannot have meaning because meaning is a formula; meaning is something that makes sense to the mind.
Every time you make sense out of reality, you bump into something that destroys the sense you made. Meaning is only found when you go beyond meaning. Life only makes sense when you perceive it as mystery and it makes no sense to the conceptualizing mind.